You Know You’re Trans* When: #1938 You adjust your chest more than you adjust your crotch.
A 16-year-old trans girl in Colorado was suspended from her high school for using a women’s restroom.
Dionne Malikowski and a trans guy friend of hers, Kurt Peters, were told only to use the staff restrooms on campus, but these are not always easily accessible. When she used a regular bathroom, she was suspended for three days.
“I cried,” Malikowski said. “I told them that it was really messed up for them to do that to me, and they were like, ‘We’ve warned you before,’ and I was just like, ‘Obviously you don’t understand what it’s like.’”
What in the world. No. This is beyond any kind of decency. A bathroom is a bathroom, and this kind of treatment is borderline abusive.
“Both” vs. “All” Genders
Avoid phrases like “the opposite sex” or “both genders.” This goes for any classroom setting, and is a pretty useful rule for speech and writing in general. Constructions like these reinforce a binary understanding of gender by setting external limits on the field of gender (“both” implying that there are no genders beyond these two) and by setting up male and female as irreconcilably different, oppositional entities. Phrases like “all genders” are just as simple to use and incorporate rather than invisibilize genders beyond the binary.
“Gender is something relevant to all of us because we all express gender. You may or may not be transgender. You may or may not know a transgender child. The truth is that doesn’t matter. We are all on this planet together. Gender Now is meant to provide reflection and support unity by showing multiple genders standing together. It is a specific opportunity to create balance and awareness by including gender expressions that are under-represented in our current culture.”
I stumbled upon this great book recently when seeking out trans* and genderqueer resources - what a fabulous idea! The presentation makes it easy to follow for someone who is new to the idea of non-binary and trans* gender expression, with particular accessibility for young people. I love how it is gender diversity positive and body-positive, with lines like “There are LOTS AND LOTS of different types of bodies. This means there are LOTS AND LOTS of different ways to feel like a girl or boy or simply a person on the inside of your body. In fact, there are so many different bodies and ways to feel inside your body what we really need are more words than just boy and girl.” Cute and whimsical illustrations. Bear in mind that the terminology is not always technical or preferable - the intention is to make these concepts easy to grasp and fun to learn about. Also available in a classroom version. Highly recommended!
Lately we’ve had a lot of questions about binders: how to get them, how to wear them, and how to care for them. We thought it best to compile to answers to all of these questions for future reference.
How can I get a binder if I can’t afford one?
A lot of guys give away their binders after…